random babble…

h/t annaham

i get a little irritated w/ ppl who think they know absolutely everything about everything.  so if you are in good health, and have never had the unfortunate experience of thinking you are going crazy b/c you are in so much fucking pain that it alters your life and no one can seem to tell you why then you deserve a big fucking cookie.  seriously.

it’s not in our heads.  we are not in pain b/c we are depressed, although the pain gets worse from the depression…but instead we are fucking depressed b/c we are in pain.  we are on anti-depressants b/c it seems to be the only thing they think works…

so, until you have seen countess docs and had every bit of your body poked and all you fluids tested and every scan known to man, and all of it comes back just this side of “normal”, had all the docs tell you that you must just be “depressed” so “here’s some anti-depressants” and therapy must be your only route…back the fuck up off…most of us have learned to “suck it up and deal w/ it”, at least a good portion of it.  we are a walking mob of zombies who are coping as best we can…and some of us some of us are doing this w/o meds…which means we are miserable…

your advice?  all the “if you would get off your ass and exercise” or your “if you would just lose some weight”, or “cheer up”, while maybe well-intentioned, might have actually occurred to us.  we may have actually thought of that, did you ever think of that?

didn’t think so.

i hope you never, ever have to deal w/ what we are dealing w/, or what our families are dealing w/.  grow some fucking human compassion, and get in line w/ the rest of the well meaning people who are all “concerned” about us.  

ever think for a moment that you might not know absolutely everything ever?

jezebel is off my blogroll until they learn to be fucking human beings.  the chuckles i get from their poking fun at celebrities isn’t worth the current shaming going on out there…