Time for another round. See the first here. Read more »
When I was an E-3 in California I began to experience several strange symptoms that had frustrate entire teams of doctors and my Chain of Command (CoC). I was living in Military Housing (which was costing all of my Basic Allowance for Housing) w/ my at the time three year old daughter. Being sick was not easy on us. Finally my General Practitioner (a full bird) made the recommendation that I discontinue the BC I was currently on and use a non hormonal IUD instead. Her theory was that the hormones in my current BC were aggravating whatever was ailing me (which still wasn’t diagnosed, and actually still isn’t “officially” in my record) She made me a recommendation to the on base OB/GYN. Read more »
who your shaming will hurt.
whether under the guise of concern, or just plain moral superiority people carelessly throw words around all the time. and there are some things that get thrown around that we not only think that we have a right to say it, that we need to say it for someone’s own good, but sometimes people don’t really know at all what they are talking about, or who.
i recently, via Thursday blogwhoring, read a great post by Renee, dissecting a piece she ran across that essentially tears black women apart for referring to themselves as “thick” or otherwise, and argues that they are in fact in denial about their weight problems. the piece she links to seems to try to come off as concerned for their health, but that is how it starts. we as a society seem to believe that we have a responsibility, or rather a right, to inform people outside of the norm of acceptable size that they are too fat for their own good. we shame them right to the core, and it comes from every angle. in magazines, movies, on the TV, in our favorite restaurants and shit even in Starbucks w/ their “skinny” lattes, thin is in and anything else is so dangerous you are lucky if you don’t (die this very second you big fatty don’t you know you are going to get diabetes/have a heart attack/have a stroke/ and) die! the multibillion dollar diet industry is constantly in our faces, and every where we turn we are browbeaten w/ books like the Skinny Bitch’s Cookbook, or You On A Diet, and other such shelf toppers.
and some people become upset that we are ignoring that “skinny” people get teased (like what is happening in the discussion w/ the oh so brave ‘Anonymous’ commenters at Renee’s place), or that we are just enabling the fatties to ignore their own health. really, you can’t have a conversation about fat acceptance w/o people popping up to make it all about them and their strife as a skinny person who is misunderstood by the evil skinny hating chunky butts, or the concern trolls who just want to save our lives.
and they can’t understand that they are not helping anyone w/ what they are doing.
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my friend, Stacy, who is kick ass and a cancer survivor, is asking for your help in sponsoring her team for the Walk for the Children’s Leukemia Foundation of Michigan. she is walking this year, and is heading up Team Dragonfly.
if you have the means, and are so inclined, please consider giving a little to her team. i am really excited that she is able to do this, b/c she wasn’t able to last year, due to her own fight w/ cancer.
even though she and i met under some strange circumstances, i am proud to call her my friend now, and am thrilled to see her able to do this event.
on a slightly unrelated note, i am participating in the AIDS walk this year, w/ the Guy and Karebear. if you are also means filled and so inclined, we wouldn’t mind your support, either. but, really, support Stacy first if you have to choose!
you can follow this link to her team and donate from there. you may contact me privately about the AIDS Walk Honolulu this April.
Children’s Leukemia Foundation of Michigan
type in “Team Dragonfly” in the search tab, and it will take you to the place for donations!
Thanks, everyone!
and good luck, Stace!
this was so incredibly awesome! this. this nails it. this is how i feel most days. somedays i get up, and i have a lot of spoons, and some days i wake up, and lose a spoon, and i realize that i already used today’s spoons yesterday…
if you read no other post i write today, well…this week, please go over to shakesville and read this post by Wolfrum. Read more »
h/t annaham
i get a little irritated w/ ppl who think they know absolutely everything about everything. so if you are in good health, and have never had the unfortunate experience of thinking you are going crazy b/c you are in so much fucking pain that it alters your life and no one can seem to tell you why then you deserve a big fucking cookie. seriously.
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